The Virtue of CareDONALD DEMARCO
The heart of virtue is love. Love without virtue remains unexpressed.Caring
degree of intimacy with love is more evident in some virtues than in others. In
the case of courtesy or justice, for example, the degree of intimacy with love
may not be readily apparent. But with care, more than with any other virtue, its
identification with love is unmistakable. When people care for one another, ministering
to each other’s needs, as a mother cares for her new baby, a doctor cares for
a sick patient, or a teacher cares for a struggling student, the connection between
love and virtue is evident. The popular expression “tender loving care” reveals
the deep intimacy between the virtue of care and its heart of love. Care, then,
is the virtue that is most synonymous with love.
A human being is, most fundamentally,
one who is called into existence by love and called into existence to love. Pope
John Paul II, therefore, says that “love is the fullest realization of the possibilities
inherent in man.” Because the virtue of care is so deeply associated with love,
it comes the closest of all virtues to coinciding with it. And because love personifies
the human being, care is the name that comes closest to revealing his identity.
The inability to care, more than anything else, shows a human being to be inhuman.
To care is to express humanness, to reveal love. Not to care is to place a barrier
between oneself and one’s own humanity. It is to remain unloving.
Truest Way to be Human
Roman mythology teaches that the truest name
for the human person is “Care,” and offers an imaginative and instructive fable
to illustrate how this name came to be chosen:
One day, Care was amusing
herself by molding earth into various shapes. She fashioned one shape that especially
amused her. Wanting this new form to enjoy life, she beseeched Jupiter to grant
it a soul. Jupiter obliged Care by breathing life into the earthly form. Care
then requested that this new creature be named after her. When Jupiter objected,
they asked Saturn, the god of time, to serve as arbiter. Saturn decreed that when
the new creature died, its body had to return to Earth, which was its origin;
its soul had to return to its father, Jupiter, who had given it life. But all
the time it was alive it was to be entrusted to Care.
and poet Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, who had a great affection for the myths of
antiquity, also wrote about the primal place of time and care in the constitution
of man. He conceived an image that exquisitely parallels the Roman myth:
every-day cares and duties, which men call drudgery, are the weights and counterpoises
of the clock of time, giving its pendulum a true vibration, and its hands a regular
motion; and when they cease to hang upon the wheels, the pendulum no longer swings,
the hands no longer move, and the clock stands still.The absence
of care is the death of personality. Care may seem to be a weight, but in fact
it is the counterweight that gives life its balance, its vibrancy, its authenticity.
Shouldering the Burden
the central problem with care is precisely that many view it as drudgery. People
long for the so-called “care-free” life, one that exempts them from the burden
of having to care for other people, especially the very young and the very old.
Yet this “care-free” ideal is infected with ominous implications for abortion
and euthanasia. No doubt, caring can be inconvenient on occasion and can place
considerable demands on our time. Indeed, the many cares of life can be exhausting.
Shakespeare said that we needed sleep to knot up the raveled sleeve of care. And
Milton, in L’Allegro, derided Care as a wrinkled old hag.
the virtue that makes us authentically human caring often appears
so burdensome that a person prefers to be other than who he is. Sluggishness,
indifference to others, is therefore commonplace. Thus, Mother Teresa of Calcutta
could say, “The greatest disease in the West is not tuberculosis or leprosy; it
is being unwanted, unloved, and uncared for.”
Despite the horrifying
ordeal she experienced at a Nazi concentration camp during World War II, CUF advisor
Wanda Poltawska has never lost her caring concern for others. As a psychiatrist,
she draws from her experience to provide specialized care to others who have suffered
from the horrors of war and genocide.
When John Paul II was shot in a
failed assassination attempt, the first thing he did upon his release from the
hospital was to visit his assailant in prison and pardon him. Even those who contest
his words do not challenge his integrity and his abiding care for others
including those who have trespassed against him.
Care does not allow
suffering, either in the self or in the other, to prevent love from being expressed.
It is the virtue that allows love to overcome its first and most fundamental obstacle,
namely, inconvenience. It is never too inconvenient to love as long as one has
care. “He’s not heavy,” said the lad who seemed to be struggling under the burden
of the young tike he was carrying, “He’s my brother.”
Donald. "The Virtue of Care." Lay Witness.
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DeMarco is Professor at Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, CT and
Professor Emeritus at St. Jerome's University in Waterloo Ontario. He has written
hundreds of articles for various scholarly and popular journals, and is the author
of twenty books, including The
Heart of Virtue, The
Many Faces of Virtue, Virtue's Alphabet: From Amiability to Zeal
Of The Culture Of Death. Donald DeMarco is on the Advisory Board of The
Catholic Educator's Resource Center.
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